“Acceptance is the freedom from needing your cravings satisfied.”
“Wisdom and freedom require the ability to allow the natural flow of emotions to come and go. Always having to prevent or suppress emotions is a form of being controlled by emotions.”
“The great thing about treating borderline patients is that it is like having a supervisor always in the room.”
“You can't think yourself into new ways of acting; You only can act yourself into new ways of thinking.”
“When we 'become what we are doing,' there is a merging of action and awareness, so that we are no longer aware of ourselves as separate from what we are doing.”
“Figuring out and changing the causes of behavior work better than judging and blaming. Judging and blaming are easier, but if we want to create change, we have to change the chains of events that cause unwanted behaviors.”